…but quality matters.
It’s an exhausting new world. Parents are feeling more tired, overworked and underpaid than ever before. Our kids deserve our best, but so do we. Here’s how we can make the most of more (gasp!) screen time.
THE SHORT VERSION
A new review by Australian researchers of data from 2451 previous studies (yeah, it’s a hot topic) found that while screen time does affect development, the impact appears “small to moderate”.
That’s not carte blanche to turn your kids over to the electric babysitter, of course. Read on, or jump ahead to our tips 👇
Fellow dads, let me tell you: I’m a little worried I’ll be cancelled over this article.
Screen time… is okay? Am I nuts? Look, probably, but on this particular topic there seems to be decent evidence that not everything we’ve believed about screen time is entirely accurate.
Now, firstly, let’s face it: we’re exhausted. Between work, family, and the boundless energy of our little ones, finding time for ourselves – whether to recuperate, decompress or just plain enjoy something alone – feels like a distant dream. So when the TV offers a fleeting moment of peace, is it so surprising that many of us look to the TV as a casual babysitter? (I certainly pay enough for its services…)
But in among that deeply human cycle of exhaustion and guilt, there’s a constant drumbeat about screen time limits and potential dangers, adding another layer of stress to an already overflowing plate.
Well, this is my truth, and I invite you to subscribe: it’s okay to relax.
You’re doing the best you can. For some dads, that’s more, and for others it’s less.
Wherever you fall on the scale of oh shit I knew it’d be hard but this is all harder than I thought it’d be, relying on screens to buy yourself a few minutes of sanity – even when the ‘timer‘ is up – is perfectly alright. We all need a break, and there’s no shame in that.
If the pure, self-preservationist, ‘you have to help yourself before you can help others’ logic there isn’t enough, I’ve got you.
Everybody likes research that makes them feel a little better about themselves, and here it is: a new review by Australian researchers of data from 2451 previous studies – yeah, it’s a hot topic – involving nearly 2 million kids found that while screen time does affect development, the impact appears to be “small to moderate”.
But, as I noted at the head, the type of screen time really does matter.
Key findings include:
- Interactive screen time, such as playing video games or using educational apps, has fewer negative effects and some beneficial effects
- Passive screen time, like watching TV or YouTube videos, has negative consequences on children’s physical, mental, and social health
- Educational screen time, such as doing homework or using learning apps, has benefits in school achievement and persistence
- Parents watching television with their kids has a positive effect on literacy rather than them watching alone
- Touch screens and augmented reality showed strong benefits on learning
Speaking with the Sydney Morning Herald, lead author Dr Taren Sanders – a research fellow at the Australian Catholic University’s Institute for Positive Psychology and Education (bit of an expert) – said “I think it’s surprising how small these effect sizes are, overall.”
“For some kids, in some circumstances, [screens] certainly do matter. But on average, we saw very small effect sizes – which means you’d need a really large dose of exposure to have meaningful effects.”
There it is, endless screen time is fine! Well, not quite. Before we throw all advice out the window, let’s take a breath and consider a different approach. Exposure to certain content, excessive or otherwise, can absolutely be detrimental – so we have to at least monitor our kids’ screen time. But, TV and technology can both be valuable tools for learning, connection, and entertainment.
The key lies in finding balance and using screens responsibly.
Getting it done
Ditch the guilt, embrace quality: Instead of fixating on strict time limits, focus on making screen time meaningful. Choose educational apps and shows, co-view programs together, and use technology as a springboard for learning and conversation. Remember, quality matters more than quantity.
Apple’s official guide | Android’s official guide
When you can, prioritise real-world experiences
Screens can be engaging, but they really shouldn’t replace real-world interactions. It doesn’t have to be sports! Go for a walk or a bike ride, hit the playground, involve them in some DIY… even a walk around the shops is something. Get them involved with the grocery shopping, if that won’t stress you out too much.
Encourage physical activity, creative play, and social interaction through outdoor activities, games, and hobbies. These experiences are crucial for healthy development and create lasting memories.
Mindful moments matter
Be mindful of the content your kids are consuming. Opt for age-appropriate programs and limit exposure to violence, negativity, and advertising. Encourage critical thinking and open discussions about what they see and hear.
Screen time doesn’t have to be solo time
Turn screen time into a shared experience. Co-view shows, play games together, and use technology to connect with friends and family. These shared moments can be enriching and strengthen bonds.
By the way, the website Common Sense Media has some great lists of the best TV shows and movies, with a good rundown on what to expect from each one.👇
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Parenting is a team effort. Don’t be afraid to share the responsibility with your partner, family, or friends. Sharing the load and seeking support can make a world of difference.
Celebrate the wins, big and small
Amidst the chaos, remember to celebrate the small victories. Did your child learn a new skill from an app? Did they have a blast playing outside? Acknowledge their progress and nurture their positive experiences.
Remember, you’re not alone
Millions of dads are navigating the same challenges. Don’t compare yourself to others or feel pressured by unrealistic expectations. Focus on creating a loving and supportive environment for your child, and celebrate each step along the way.
Finding balance in the digital age is a journey, not a destination. Be kind to yourself, blokes! Embrace technology’s potential when you can and when you need to, and prioritise real-world experiences as much as possible. You’ll figure out the right balance for you and your kids.
Food for thought…
I haven’t been able to find it online, but I recall Aussie presented Marc Fennell saying once in an interview, something along the lines of: “You know what happens to kids who watch ‘too much’ TV? They grow up to work in television!”.
Life could be a lot worse.
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Mike Stevens
Mike is a dad, a motoring journalist, designer, photographer, gadgethead and erstwhile cyclist. Proudly ADHD 💪
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